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Reflecting on my 30th Birthday & Mother’s Day

Hi everyone! I hope you are all having a great week so far.

I have been doing a lot of reflecting recently since I just had our second little girl in March, turned 30 in April, and will be celebrating my second Mother’s Day this weekend. So… where to begin?

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Top Golf with my family and friends to celebrate my 30th!

If you had asked me where I saw myself in 10 years when I was 20, it would most certainly not be where I am today. I have accomplished so much and am extremely proud of where I am at the age of 30. I got a lot of questions from friends and family on if I felt sad or weird turning 30 and the honest answer is no. As I look and reflect on my life, I realize that I am incredibly happy where I am at and turning 30 in my eyes is just turning another number. I have been given 2 amazing gifts with my girls who bring me more joy than I have ever experienced in my life, or could have prayed for. Seth, Brooklyn, Blair and Paisley (woof!) bring me so much happiness, love, and laughter that I can’t wait to see what our future holds. I think that my 30’s are going to be the best years of my life with the greatest memories that I will hang onto for a lifetime.

Okay, so enough about me and my birthday 🙂 Being a mother has been hands down the most difficult, amazing, wonderful, crazy, frustrating, exhausting, and best things of my life. I am so incredibly blessed to be able to be a stay-at-home mama and raise my two girls with my values and morals each and every day. Is it easy? Hell no- this is the hardest job I’ve ever had and I learn SO much every day. I feel as though I rarely know what I’m doing or if I’m doing the right thing, but I am always busting my butt to make sure my girls are happy and safe. I guess that is part of the fun of parenting- as long as you are doing your best, there really isn’t any way you can go wrong. All of us moms are constantly making mistakes, but as long as we put our best foot forward that is all we can do and it’s also how we learn 🙂 I had such an incredible childhood that I can only hope and pray that my girls have the same feelings as I did.

Mothers are incredibly strong people, and I don’t think you can fully understand to the extent until you are one. What an amazing day to celebrate all of these strong mamas and role models that I have surrounding me. My mom is my best friend, who I look up to, and she is constantly helping me down this crazy unpredictable path of motherhood with my own girls. I have learned so many lessons from my mom and wonder how in the world she raised me some days, haha. I call her A LOT with questions, concerns, to chat or vent, make plans, cry, laugh, and just about everything else that happens in my day. She has helped guide me to be a wonderful mother to my girls, and I am incredibly lucky to have her as my mom. I look up to my sister, who is a mother to 3 little boys and is also there for me for every question, panic situation, frustrating day, venting, a good laugh, and the list goes on.

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My mom, my sister and I at my cousins wedding last weekend.

My grandma is one of my best friends and raised my incredible mother, her two sisters and brother. She is the coolest, most fun, caring, hilarious, and awesome grandma you will ever meet. I talk to her at least once a week about the good, the bad, and the ugly of being a mom. She is always there when I need her and I feel fortunate that I got to spend last weekend with her at my cousins wedding.

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I know it’s blurry, but it is such a special photo- My grandma meeting Blair for the 1st time.

My other grandmother passed away this week after battling Alzheimer’s for many years. She was a great example of what a good mother and wife is. I will never forget how much she and my grandpa loved to dance. They danced all around the cul-de-sac at my high school graduation party and continued long after the last guest left. They were so in love with each other and were honestly the real-life ‘Notebook’ couple. Although she isn’t here for Mother’s Day, she is in our hearts and I know she and my grandpa are in Heaven dancing and celebrating what a wonderful job she did raising her children. She made huge sacrifices for her kids and is another role model I have been so fortunate to have.

Last, but not least, my mother-in-law raised my amazing husband in addition to his two brothers. The stories I hear of these 3 boys growing up… I don’t know how she did it! She is always there for me, to lend a helping hand, or help me with any questions I have.

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my MIL taking great care of Brooklyn while we were away at my cousins wedding.

To all of you awesome and strong mothers out there… enjoy a weekend celebrating you, and all you do for your family! We work hard and deserve a day for us and acknowledgement of all the sacrifices, blood, sweat, and tears that we put in day in and day out (and nights) for our kiddos! Cheers mamas near and far!

Chat with you all soon!

xoxo,

Jamie

Mom Guilt

Okay, so I’m hoping I’m not the only mom that has this and I have a feeling that I’m most certainly not. We wake up every day wondering what type of day we are going to have- are my kids going to wake up… happy? Sad? Cranky? Tired? Hyper? Hungry? Needy? Sick? Loving? It’s a crap shoot, you literally never know what mood you are going to be presented with. Some days I just don’t feel like there is enough time between when I put Brooklyn down and when she wakes up in the morning to start it all over again, but then I go in her room when she wakes up to morning snuggles and realize it’s a new day and a fresh slate 🙂

Morning snuggles with my little one- no makeup, no worries!

With this being said, mom guilt is a real thing. No matter the mood, I do my absolute best to make every day great for Brooklyn, despite being completely exhausted some days. I feel like the mom guilt has been layered on a bit thicker recently counting down the days I have left with Brooklyn being our only child. I want to make sure that I spend quality time with her, fill her days with laughter and fun, take her to museums, the zoo, music class, etc. Sometimes I can have the most perfect day with her and one mistake can turn it all around and make me feel like a horrible mother. Just right before Christmas I caught her from falling off the couch and splitting her head on the table and not but 3 minutes later she tripped on the dog bed and split her eyebrow open on the table. Mom fail. Slipping in the bath tub, losing patience and getting frustrated, saying a bad word, not knowing they are in pain from teeth coming in, the list goes on for reasons why I have mom guilt. I always reflect and think how I could have done things better, but in the moment I did what I thought was best for my daughter, and sometimes it’s not always what I would do after thinking of other ways to handle certain situations. I’m still learning and so is my daughter, and that’s just going to be how the rest of life goes.

I have come to the realization that no matter how hard I try I’m not going to be able to protect her from everything. I won’t always be there to catch her when she falls, but you better believe I am going to try my best. People will always ask me about her cuts and bruises that somehow magically appear, people will judge me when she is having a complete meltdown in the middle of King Soopers or screaming throughout the mall because she loves the sound of the echo, how I handle certain situations, or really when I do anything different than they would. At the end of the day we as moms are always doing the best we can. We love our kids more than anything, we want them to be the best they can be, we want to let them explore and figure out this thing we call life. In order for that to happen mistakes need to be made and you cannot always blame yourself and be so hard on yourself. I am very guilty of always being extremely hard on myself, but at the end of every day when we have bath time, story time, prayers, family hugs and smooches, and tuck her in that I have done my absolute best to be the best mom that I can be to Brooklyn. I put her needs ahead of me own, I teach her everything I can, take her to do fun things, love her, feed her meals and snacks, snuggle, read, laugh, dance, and just all things kids should be doing.

For all you moms out there, try to let go of mom guilt and know that you are a TERRIFIC mother. We are all doing our best and need to worry less about what others are doing or thinking. Comparing yourself to others or judging them for doing something different than you would isn’t going to get you anywhere. Keep your head up and mom on!

Chat with you all soon!

xoxo

Jamie