Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. The older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
I know we’ve all been there- wondering how or why you lost a friend. As I’ve gotten older, I have found that there are always people put in your life for what you need at that time. Growing up, you have a few best friends and as you mature through high school and college you have lots of acquaintances, but fewer and fewer close friends. This quote rings true on so many levels. I have made some incredible friendships over the past couple of years, and I have also lost some friends over these years. The friendships I have held onto from college, high school, and middle school are some of my strongest friendships I have. These are the friends who have known me almost my entire life! They know the young girl who poured her heart into sports, stressed about every test in school, dealt with heartbreaks as they came, laughed uncontrollably, loved slumber parties, had way too much fun throughout college, they know me at my absolute worst and my best, and yet they still love me (this includes family- my parents, my siblings, my cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents). I am always so thankful to have these precious few friendships that date all the way back to those young, stress-free years. I have reconnected with several of my wonderful friends from middle and high school and it is always like no time has passed and we pick up where we left off. I am beyond grateful for the wonderful friends who have touched and changed my life for the better. You come to realize that “sometimes your circle decreases in size, but increases in value”. I’m always stumped as to why some friendships come to an end, but honestly, you don’t have the time to sit and dwell or wonder. I have come to realize that my life is no different without that person in it. I need people in my life that make a difference. Not many of my friends are moms yet, but they understand my life has a changed a little with having a baby and still want to be a part of it. They love my daughter, but they also know that I can leave her with daddy and have a fun night out. Friendship is a two-way street, and as we get older and mature, we don’t have time for the friendships that aren’t bringing us happiness or take too much to nurture. We all have our own lives to live and life changes, and its important to “understand that people change and sometimes they are no longer compatible with our lives. We just have to learn to accept it and move on”. Friends are such an important piece of our lives and as we get older, it is important that you know people from when you were young. Throughout the trials in life and the deck of cards you have been dealt, these friends remain constant- and know the you in which you were raised and haven’t wavered too far. They help keep you in check 🙂
As a person who has wondered why some friendships haven’t lasted, don’t waste too much of your time or energy wondering why. Keep on moving and put the time and effort into the relationships you love and care for. “God puts people in your life for a reason, and removes them from your life for a better reason.” I have been told that friends are the family you get to choose, or the ‘siblings God forgot to give you”. Be picky of these friendships- and know how important these friendships are throughout your life. ❤
Chat with you all soon!